Today I’m writing about myself. That is nothing new. But today is different. Sometimes I write to work things out in my head. I try to never ask questions that I don’t have an answer for (right or wrong). I have been working on a single question for months without a solution. I am not really expecting to find one in this Blog. My question: WHY GOD?
I have made awful choices and been way off track in my life. The last four years have been different. I have dedicated myself to be God’s servant. I am at least trying. God has provided me abundant grace. I have a place to live, plenty to eat, clothes to wear, and really don’t lack for anything. I even am even blessed to have a job that I really like it as well. I have good friends- make that great friends. I have parents and brothers and kids that loves me. God has been good to me. But I still ask, “Why God?”
Why God? Every week in jail I talk about your grace. The special grace in providing us kids. Why do you take them away Lord? I miss Michael as much as I did when he died seven years ago. I find it hard to believe that any child needs to die. I saw a commercial for Akron Children’s Hospital- they are currently treating over 200 kids with cancer. Summit County (Akron, Ohio) averages over one child homicide a month. If you are teaching us can’t you do it without the little ones suffering?
Why God? There are areas where you seem to ignore me God? You slowed my head mentally five years ago as diabetes and adrenal insufficiency slowed my body. You ask me to do your work every day. I do as a grateful humble servant. But can’t you let me talk to the kids without worrying if my brain can even find the words I need. I keep writing these Blogs to spread your word. Why do they need to take twice as long as a year ago to write?
Why God? I know you have my back. I know you love me. But every night I go to bed alone. I have prayed for a mate for a long time. Lord you know I pray for almost nothing for myself. Ok, I do ask for wisdom quite often (something that doesn’t come naturally to me). In 1 Corinthians 7:8 Paul says “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” God all I can say is I’m burning with passion- not in the conjugal sense. But I am burning to come home and have a conversation with someone other than my dog. I’d also like to wake up without my partner licking my face (Yes once again I’m talking about you Ryelee the Wonderdog!) What else do I need to do?
Now before I get emails (no one ever post comments when they are trying to help me), here me out. Yes I have read the end of Job…we aren’t supposed to get everything. And God doesn’t owe telling us everything. Yes I know God does things in His time (Psalm 31:14-15.) And trust me, I’d win a lot of contests which involve patience. And yes I know trials make us stronger… look at Joseph (Jacobs son). Personally Lord, between my screw ups and your trials I feel like I’ve had enough of those kinds of lessons.
There is currently a disconnect between what I know to be true and what I feel. And yes, I know to pray for help with that. What I do know is God only speaks the truth. So with pain I will follow. I will trust- that is faith. And I will keep doing God’s work- that is the definition of obedience. And while I find God’s love (which never went anywhere), I’ll stay close to those loving God. They hold the end of the rainbow that I’ll find again.
God Bless,
Mark
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August 8, 2011 at 8:02 pm (commentary, docmark's philosophy, Spirituality)
Tags: anger, Carmella Holley, Copley Massacre, gun violence, peace, prayer, tragedy, wisdom
Carmella Holley
Ed. Note: I don’t normally write about the news of the day. I also on’t jump on stories just because they are big. I’m writing this Blog because my heart is heavy, and writing helps me heal. Thanks for allowing me the privilege of expressing my feelings.
But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. Matthew 5:39
“If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea…” Matthew 18:6
Have you ever heard of Carmella Holley? She was an 11 year old Akron girl who was shot and died from a single stray bullet in gun fight in Akron. This happened on 8/3, less than a week ago. Sunday we prayed for her and her family and friends at church. Our pastor, Dr. Swoope, talked about the danger of guns and the biggest problem, the idiots that use them [lots of paraphrasing by me]. Less than thirty minutes later, tragedy struck again. An angry man shot his girlfriend (in intensive care) and killed six others in Copley, Ohio (Adjacent to Akron). Two teens just happened to be sitting in a car after a sleepover at Grandma and Grandpas. The teens were shot to death, along with their grandparents, for being at the wrong place at the wrong time. Another boy, age 11, and his dad, were shot because they were the brother and nephew of the shooter’s girlfriend.
… One of Carmella’s shooters (I’m not a fan of the word allegedly) has been caught, the other is still at large. Yet little is being said on the news about the man at large. Between the multiple shootings in Copley and Anthony Sowell taking the stand today in the death penalty phase of his trial there just isn’t room. How wrong is it that there is so much tragedy that finding an at large killer of an innocent 11 year old girl comes in third.
… When did shooting become part of conflict resolution? When I was young we fought with our fists. I volunteered at a camp this summer held at a school with metal detectors meant to keep guns and knives out of school. And in on local high school a state champion swimmer brought an automatic weapon to school but received no jail time as he left it in the trunk of his car. How did we get from fist fights to Uzis? Can we ever go back?
… Last night my daughter and I went to dinner after seeing the news of the Copley shootings. The guy in front of us ordered 150 hamburgers. I was very irritated that he hadn’t called ahead…that is until he turned around. He was a Red Cross worker bringing sandwiches to law officers and families at the crime sight. I felt humbled instantly. How quickly we forget the pain of others. And how small our problems really are compared to those others face.
… We recurrently hear that a lot of these shootings involve someone with mental health difficulties. As a person who has suffered with mental health issues (Thankfully very under control!), I can tell you that the system is broken. Burgeoning numbers of patients, partially fueled by the economic turn down, and decreasing funding plagues the system. If you can’t jump through the hoops, you will never get care. Have you ever tried to jump through those hoops when you depressed, hearing voices, or even paranoid. I have, and it’s incredibly hard. This is complicated by the interface between the legal and mental health systems, which is non-existent in most counties and states. Minor infractions often get the mentally ill in the legal system, and offenses worsen and get more frequent as mental health care is very hard to deliver in jails and prisons. And arrangements for care after incarceration are minimal at best. The solution to these problems is also a solution to many of these tragedies.
…Michelle (my ex) and I have lost a son way too early. Michael died at the age of 13. I want to let the families know that that in some ways the pain never leaves. But eventually you can put the pain in a box that you shut real tight. And when that box is shut, the opportunity for good memories becomes available- when you are ready for them.
… Finally, if in doubt pray.
Father, thank you for our blessings. Please comfort the many families who have experienced tragic loss of loved ones. Let them heal. And even though there will be scars, let them be patches to a new live where we grow even from our deepest tragedies. Protect our children that have left this world way too early. Bless the families as they move forward, it is so easy to stay stuck in the same place. And let us gain wisdom and peaceful nature to conflict resolution, because our children are way too precious to have even one lose a drop of blood again. Amen
God Bless,
Mark
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